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by Ashika Pillay<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
So often, I hear from my clients, friends and family and myself, of how I need to \u201cget over my procrastination\u201d, or \u201cI don\u2019t understand why I am putting this off?\u201d. It\u2019s a disease that plagues many, and is often misunderstood. Deeper enquiry and insight can lead to transforming this way of being, and open us to becoming more effective, productive and impactful. After much research and case studies with my own clients, I have some ideas on why we put things off, and why we appear to get in our own way.\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n
Why is it that some tasks appear \u201cease-ful\u201d and happen seamlessly, while others bear the weight of a ton of bricks on our backs? Is it really that we don\u2019t have the time, or is it that we don\u2019t have the emotional energy to confront what we may be avoiding. On the surface, procrastination certainly looks like a time management issue. Yet, if you look deeper, you will notice, that there\u2019s a pattern to the tasks that you approach, and the ones that you avoid.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Notice how your body feels when you have a task that has \u201cease\u201d to it. There\u2019s action (doing) and a feeling of calm in the body. Next notice how your body feels when there\u2019s a task that you are putting off? There\u2019s contraction in the body, and perhaps most importantly a lack of clarity – somewhere. Perhaps it’s about confronting an issue that you don\u2019t feel you have the energy for, or it\u2019s a difficult decision that needs to be made, or it\u2019s about a competence with the task at hand, or it could be a view of how \u201cperfect\u201d the outcome needs to be. Perhaps you question the purpose of this task? In all of the above, the common theme is that there is an imbalance somewhere and emotional regulation issue at hand. Your mind, body and spirit are in some way not aligned. There\u2019s a lack of harmony, space and leadership. Let\u2019s delve into each one.<\/p>\n
Mentally, let\u2019s look at this as two steps. First, checking in on how you are thinking about this, and second finding a way to re-frame that thinking?\u00a0<\/p>\n
Here are a few checking in questions.<\/p>\n
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Why am I avoiding this task?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What don\u2019t I wish to confront<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What feels \u201cenergy draining\u201d about this?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What\u2019s getting in my way?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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How am I getting in my own way?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Now that you\u2019ve checked in, how can you see this task differently and reframe. What is the insight from answering the above questions?\u00a0<\/p>\n
Physically, we can simply become aware of how our bodies feel about this task, and then find a way to regulate the emotional tone of the body. Most times procrastination is associated with a level of overwhelm and stress. These lights up the alarm (emotional\/limbic) center of the brain, takes the command center (pre-frontal cortex) off line, and our bodies become immersed in the hormones of fright\/flight or freeze. Simply recognizing this state in the body, can bring ease. Next, deep intentional breathing<\/span><\/a> like \u201cbox breathing\u201d – breathing in for 5 seconds, holding for 5 seconds, breathing out for 5 seconds and holding for another 5 seconds) can help us to reset the brain and bring the command center back on line. This is a simple and profound exercise to cause an inner shift from confusion and anxiety to calm and clarity.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Last and probably most important, we can check in with our deeper level of connection to this task.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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What is the inner spiritual conflict?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Where is this task out of alignment with my values and purpose?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What is my belief about this?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Managing energy – mental, emotional and spiritual is a way out of many hidden conflicts. Procrastination can sometimes simply be a symptom of an imbalance and lack of harmony somewhere in the continuum of mind, body and purpose. Look deeper, and you could be surprised about what you learn about how to manage your life with deeper wisdom.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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